There’s a kind of collusion in romantic love not to breach reality. So when two different realities finally do enter the picture, there’s a real competition for who has the truth. You get a kind of turf war: ‘I’m right’; ‘no, I’m right.’   

—Harville Hendrix

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Okay, maybe you don’t have strong beliefs about the “right” way to load a dishwasher, or about your sweetheart’s propensity to do it “wrong.” In that case, either you are unusually saintly or (like me) you don’t own a dishwasher. But you almost certainly get involved in domestic disputes about who’s right and who’s wrong all the time; we all do. Although interpersonal arguments can have a number of causes – from serious and painful breaches in trust to the fact that we haven’t had our coffee yet – an impressive number of them amount to a tug-of-war over who possesses the truth. We fight over the right to be right.